Tori’s Tips: 11/27

Tori Simons, Staff Writer

“What are some tips on how to ask out a girl?”


First I want to start off by saying that this is solely my opinion. Some girls have different standards and expectations when it comes to being asked out. With that being said, here are some general tips on how you should ask out a girl.

The first part of asking someone out is building up the confidence and courage to do that. You need to trust yourself to do something that will most likely push you out of your comfort zone. By believing in yourself and putting yourself out there, you are making a big step in the right direction. Having the mindset of best case and worst case scenario could help calm yourself as well. Best case scenario would be that she says yes, which would make you thrilled and allow you to accomplish what you originally set out to do. Worst case scenario would be that she says no, which would disappoint you. Yet, if it wasn’t meant to be, you shouldn’t feel the need to be hung up on something that was out of your control at that point in time. Remember that you made the move to ask her out, so you did everything you could to make your feelings known. No matter the outcome, making the move to express how you feel is better than doing nothing. Allowing yourself to be open and honest with someone will lead you further than making the choice to do nothing. Sometimes waiting for something to happen will only cause nothing to happen.

Another tip that I highly recommend is asking the person out face to face. When things are said over text, messages may be read out of context or are not said in the most sincere way. Face to face makes it clear of your intentions and also ensures a direct response. When speaking, make sure you calm yourself and have an idea about what you are going to say. At that moment you may feel nervous, which is normal, but it is good to pre-plan what you want to say in order to prevent mess-ups or misspeaking. In addition to this, I also suggest not asking her out in front of a lot of people. That just makes the situation awkward and puts more pressure on both of you. Taking the time to remove yourself from possible crowds and even friends will guide you to the best response. Then the girl doesn’t have to feel anxious or awkward answering in front of everyone, and allows her time to process. 

Asking someone out is not the easiest thing to do. It takes confidence, courage, and a positive mindset to lead someone in having a successful outcome. Trusting yourself and putting yourself out there in the first place is a huge positive in itself. Just make sure you take the time to calm yourself down and not be embarrassed. Yes, this situation can be extremely nerve-wracking and stressful, but asking someone out is a part of life. So, don’t be afraid to take these moments and learn from them. It is okay to allow yourself to feel the rush of putting yourself out there and be pushed out of your comfort zone. 


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